OK, silly/ petty question here... what if you told a friend that you wanted to name your future child a certain name, and she claimed that she had wanted to name her child the same thing. Would it be wrong to go on and name your child that if you had a child first?
What if you and a friend have the same baby name picked out?
I don't think it would be wrong, so to speak, as it's your child regardless of what she might name her child. I do think it might be confusing if your friend decides to use the name anyway, and your friend might get annoyed about it, but morally I don't think it would be wrong. You get to name your kid and she gets to name hers; the two decisions are not intertwined at all. I mean, you choice technically does not affect hers. If she chooses to let it affect her, then that is her own problem. I don't think that it's right to call dibs on names, as that's a personal choice and one can still use a name that their friend has used.
Besides, I don't see how it might affect anyone if both you and your friend have two children with the same name. It might turn out to be an inside joke for you two, even, and the kids could go by different nicknames so as not to be confused with each other.
Reply:first pregnant, first to use.
I suppose it would depend on the name. If it was common, like Aiden, it might not matter as much, but something pretty unique like...Ebenezer...it might be really weird.
Also, it would depend on how much it's going to hurt the other...is it worth losing a friendship over (yes, sometimes people can be petty).
A similar situation happened with my best friend and her sister. They were both pregnant at the same time only about a month apart. They were both having boys. One day while on the phone, the sister asked what name they'd picked. My friend answered Isaiah, and her sister FREAKED that was the name THEY'D picked. My friend was just like, oh, okay, that's fine, use it...it's not set in stone, we'll find something else. She went with Elijah. And is soooo happy she did.
Reply:Its all about Originality, if you want to name your baby that with possibility your friends will too, thats you choice, but your friend might be a little wrong for being a copy cat, but so much you can do... agree to spell the names differently, or next time, just don't tell them anything :)
Reply:my sis and i had the same name tyler lee picked out for a boy, but i since dropped it an no longer wanted to name my child that..but a friend wanted the same name i would name it what i have always wanted..and so what if the kids have the same name... but i wouldn't do it with my sis.. that would be wierd..but if its a friend, you don't know if your friendship will last forever..
Reply:That happened to me a few years ago.. I told my friend the name that I liked most and she told me it was one of her picks but not the first choice however I actually had forgot about it ...so she had the baby first. Which was okay because i'd changed my mind at that time and no longer liked that name. Well lesson learned I do not tell anybody my names picks anymore.
Reply:Whoever has the baby first gets the name, if at that point you both still want it. You could both use it, but you might not want to. If both of you thought of it independently, chances are it is a very popular name, anyway.
Reply:First to pop one out gets first choice of names. It's ridiculous to fight over something that may never come to matter. You could have a boy and she a girl and that's the end of it. Worry only if you give birth the same day.
Reply:whoever has the baby first, it doesn't really matter if they have the same name. It's not as if only one person can have it. You're still free to name your child anything you want.
Reply:it's a name. a lot of best friends that i know have the same name, they're fine with it. why shouldn't it be ok for the kids to have the same name?
Reply:Not at all. There's no reason you can't both use the same name, either.
Reply:No, you should name your baby what ever you wanna name him/her. Plus you don't know if you'll be friends with this person forever..
Reply:keep the name, but give your baby a unique middle name.
Reply:i'd tell her to change it and say you made it up first -_- and had the baby first.
Reply:I'd say whoever has a baby first
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